The Lows, Highs and Learnings

4 Shore Projects Pty Ltd, My Little Construction Company, who’s 2nd birthday came and went in late September last year without too much fuss. In reality, we were far too busy delivering projects to pay this significant milestone much mind.

I’ve written previously about the first weeks of setting the company up in my Medium Article, ‘I Was Made Redundant, Time to Step Up’, and I thought I’d continue on to share the next stage of the journey and how it’s changed me.

I’ve discovered that when people in business refer to owning a business…


How secure leaders show strength

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I’ve had to do a fair bit of reflection on strength and what it means, how it shows itself both on the inside and how it looks to others on the outside. Because there are as many shades to strength as there are colours in the light spectrum, it, like most things, is difficult to articulate. So I’m focusing on the quiet, hidden strengths that are essential to effective leadership. In my humble opinion.

In many of the Junior Managers (and many Senior Managers) I’ve worked alongside and mentored over the years, it’s unsettlingly clear…


Recent world events have had me thinking about privilege, whose shoulders it rests on and whose it doesn’t. And it’s a tricky subject because no matter how open minded I try to be about my own privilege, I don’t know what I don’t know. And so it is I remain open and listen. Knowing I never have anything completely sorted out as learning is a series of shelves that I can rest on a while, only till I’m ready to move to the next shelf and learn more.

So while I’m sure I’ll look back at this piece of writing…


What did I get from a lifetime of experiences like the one’s I’ve been writing about in my set of Medium Series’ ‘The Long Road’? Understanding, perspective, empathy, acceptance of differences, humility, kindness, insight, perception, ferocity, relentlessness, a deep seeded hunger for more, a solid unwavering groundedness, a confidence that nothing is insurmountable, strength, tenderness, a hair trigger reaction time for situations that ‘feel’ wrong, forgiveness, an all-consuming gratitude for the good times, childlike joy, a seemingly never ending supply of positivity, boldness and shyness at the same time, a sort of vibrational hyper sensitivity, an ever present sorrow, awareness…


Whenever hearing about a situation or an unfolding of events, it is almost impossible to not immediately start applying personal judgement to it. It allows for the discomfort within the story or unfolding to be brought under a level of control by the listener. It puts that unfolding in a box that we can categorise as being something that would never happen to us because we would never do blah or blah. Applying judgement is the easy option.

I’m not remotely religious by the way but Mahatma Gandhi wrote that “If we all took an eye for an eye, the…


The unfortunate temporary nature of my relationships leaves my hearts appetite to be with my children, constantly unsatisfied.

I’m going to start with my Eldest Daughter. Her mother and I separated when she was not quite three and really, we were probably lucky we lasted that long. But because there were no feelings left by the time we split, I could go around 3 to 4 times a week and read her bedtime stories and sing her to sleep for as long as a year and a half later. I had her every weekend, even when I moved to Brisbane…


Redundancy one day… A full week of action to follow

I have always thought of Redundancy Packages as the sort of thing that employees of big companies like BHP or Qantas get. I never expected that I would ever have it happen to me either. In 23 years, I have always been the one to call it quits and leave when I felt things had lived their lifecycle. …


Construction, no matter how it’s perceived, is invaluable. As I’ve been looking into the idea of being proud of what we do, I’ve unwittingly found myself in an industry that seems steeped in some sort of shame.

It’s messy, dirty, dusty, loud and a blatant inconvenience to everyone around it until it’s done. No one wants you around while it’s going on. BUT, when it’s finished… everyone raves about how awesome and new it is, how much it has improved the area etc. …


This is something I wrote in 2009 and recently found again on Blogspot! Still rings true… x

Attitude, the one we have, the one we’re ‘given’ and the one we protect and hide behind. These are all different facets of the same thing we use each and every second of every day. It’s free, it defines who we are, it’s all in the mind and it’s easily changeable. It has boundaries that can only be set and changed by the owner but these boundaries restrict, define, control and often cripple the owner.

I can’t think of anything else that has…


I want to open by saying that there are many levels of adversity and there are also as many outcomes as there are stories. I’m not trying to understate anyone’s suffering or the effects that it may have had on their lives. I know too that there are individual stories of triumph over enormous adversity and they are never to be dishonored by me or anything I write below. This is more to inspire those who feel like they are so far behind that they’ll never make it, rather than to put down those who are born into privilege.

Adversity…

Joe Dageforde

I have Fought the Good Fight for my Soul, and Won. I create positivity through sharing my triumph over adversity by not giving up. Openness drives out Fear.

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